Life - my perspective

Life....not sure how to define it. Have read so many articles and heard from many. All being different interpretation of it. Which actually brings out its meaning. Life is different to everyone. What I make of life, for me, would be totally different from what someone else think about it. Also what I perceive about life tend to change periodically as the circumstances change around me. We do change our opinion about things, about life, every time based on what our state of mind is. Life is exciting for a man who loves adventure sports; but that is when he is doing the activities that he is passionate about. Make him do a 9 to 5 office desk job, I am sure his perspective of life would differ. So life, for me, largely depends on what one feel at that partucular moment of time based what is happening around you.

For me and I guess for many, every now and then life dictate terms to you. Or rather, even though we can make our own choices, we are normally afraid to take the risky one. So in life where many find themselves in a situation where there are more than one choices to make, most choose the conservative or easier one. In retrospective, if I had thought differently in those situations, it could have turned out better or maybe worse; but surely it would have been different. There are always things in life that we wish we could do differently.

Emotions play a large part when I am talking about life. And talking about emotions, everyone experiences different kinds of it for various different reasons. The reasons for which I feel happy may not be a reason for happiness for someone else. Any emotions, for the matter of fact, people would have different reasons to experience it. One can have the adrenalin rush of excitement sitting in a speeding car and the same can be an experience of horror for someone
else. When I hear people saying "I understand what you mean", I totally don't get that. I can never be in another person's exact same scenario. The people around you are different, the situation, the place... everything is different. Not only that, the way I respond to a situation or my perception would be radically different from someone else. I can only TRY to empathize, but can never understand someone else's feeling to the fullest. Being in "another person's shoes" is almost always impossible.

Having said all these, I am not always skeptical or critical about everything in life. But I have had many experiences in this short span of my life that have made me realise a lot of things. Say for that matter 'friendship'. I have seen changes in what I believe 'friendship' is, over the period of my life. I have seen friends becoming close and same ones drifting away. The reasons being, people have their own priorities and priorities change as we live. People have friends for company or for vanity or can have just because they need their help. I have seen the closeness in friendship lessen as one become less useful or the distance grow between them. Or new people in their lives have become more important or may be some are just afraid to be friends because someone knows way too much about him to his liking.

Things have changed around me, but all that remained same in my heart have been the will to do some thing that would bring a smile for the people who care about me. I hope this aspect never change in me.

All experiences in life are etched in your mind. Unless the experiences are relived often, they fade away. But the vivid memories are the ones that had shaken up your life in some way. It can be bad or good. Life is always a mixture of both. I guess its for a reason, as you would not appreciate one unless you have not experienced the other. For me, I have had more bitter ones till now in life. Hope by the time I look back before the end of my journey, I would have more good ones to overcast all my bad ones, and then I would request GOD...."once more please".

Onam Celebrations - It was fun

Onam is always special for Mallus...time to get, all your near and dear ones together and have a ball. Thats what it is...having fun. And thats what we did this time around in Bournemouth.

Had a small gathering of my dear friends.

First time after I have come to UK, I celebrated Onam with lunch on banana leaf and with flower decorations....it was fun, believe me.

Though it was celebrated on Saturday 13th Sept we never lost the spirit of Onam....cutting, chopping, stirring, cooking, spilling, shouting, burning etc...all were there and in plenty..there were a few friends to help me out without their help I wouldn't have been able to celebrate in such big scale. Facts -Including the rice and water there were 21 odd items(Sambar, Aviyal, Kootu Curry, Chicken Fry, Fish Fry, Olan, Pachadi, Raita, Naranga Curry, Beans, pulli ingi, pappdam, Payyasam, chips, sharkara chips, butter(ghee), banana, curd, salt, rice, water)!! Phew....its a lot...don't you think?